I love this quote by Elizabeth Gilbert so much that I had to do
a blog post on it. It resonates deeply to how we tend to get caught up in our
own bullshit story... and it usually is all bullshit.
We love to tell the story of what happened to us, why we
can’t do things, how we can’t get ahead, or can’t get better. Maybe you are in a relationship out of convenience, wearing the mask that everything is awesome, but really it isn't and you've created nothing but smoke and mirrors.
We say things
like ‘life is a struggle’, ‘my life is crappy’,
‘my relationship sucks’, 'I don't really need to love deeply,' or 'I can stick it out in this mediocre relationship for the next 20, 30, 40 years', or something similar.
On top of all that, we usually
blame someone else for our problems. If only that person could be better, do
better, act better, then things would be perfect. Unfortunately, you can’t
control how others act, but you can control how you react.
As hard as this is to swallow, we are in charge of every aspect of our own
lives. Unfortunately, many of us feel unworthy, undeserving, or incapable of
creating what we want because we don’t believe we have the power to make our
lives better.
What it comes down to is this: If your relationship sucks, then do something about it. If
the other person doesn’t want to make it work, then shut that door and allow another door to open. Another door will always open...if you want it to.
You cannot go through life wishing things to be different
when you already have been given the power to make things different. Don’t relinquish control to
someone else because no one else is in control of your happiness but you. If you
are unhappy, then decide to make yourself happy. If it means moving forward and
leaving others behind, then so be it.
Some of you might say, “Easier said than done” or “Ya, but
it’s difficult.”
It may be difficult but it’s not impossible. You will always
have to put effort into something that is important....especially when it comes to your happiness.
Ask yourself these questions:
Where is my focus?
Am I focused on the bullshit story I’ve been telling myself
for a very long time?
Am I focused on making my life the way I want it?
Abraham Hicks says not to think about something as a future thought, that it ‘will ‘ happen, but ‘become’ what you want in
this moment. What does this mean? It means if you want love, feel that love
right now. Become it, because the energy you send out is what you attract
back to you.
Dear beautiful friends, do not fight for your limitations, because nothing is impossible.
