Your Old Thoughts and Emotions are Like Wearing a 1970's Suit

Happy Self Love Sunday!

Your old thoughts and emotions are like wearing a 1970's polyester suit: It's uncomfortable, it's itchy and it's not breathable. 

But, to venture out to get a new suit (new thoughts and emotions) takes effort, and it means stepping into the unknown.

Why not step into the unknown and see where the new suit takes you?

This is your Soul Love Minute.

PS: Soul Love Warrior workbook and website coming soon! Can't wait to share it with you! 

This is Self-love

To attract a relationship that is loving, trustworthy, respectful, and supportive, make sure to develop these things within yourself first.
Love yourself. 
Trust yourself. 
Be supportive of who you are. 
This is selflove. 

Watch for the upcoming Self-love workbook that will help you to delve deep in the heart centre, finding the love within yourself. 


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The Storm

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Hello Soul Lovers!

Sometimes, storm clouds roll in and we are standing in a large open field feeling exposed and uncertain of where to take shelter.

During those times when you aren't sure which way to turn and uneasiness has settled in, love yourself through it all.

It's easy to love ourselves when things are going well, but loving ourselves during the challenging times is when we need it the most. 

Become your own best friend by giving yourself the care and love that you need to see it through.  Don't beat yourself up. Just own your feelings and be honest with yourself about what you need. 

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Searching for Love in All the Wrong Places

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Hello Soul Lovers! 

“The enemy of love is never outside, it’s not a man or a woman, it’s what we lack in ourselves.” ~ Anais Nin

When we go searching for love,  we are looking for something outside of ourselves.  We are looking for that thing to complete us, to make us whole.  We believe that the void will be filled by a person, place or thing.

Continuing to think this way will have us searching forever. The only way to fill the void is with the love you give to yourself.

Watch for more information on becoming a Soul Love Warrior...coming soon! 

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Sticking Around... When It's Time to Let Go

We’ve all been there... hey, maybe you're there right now. You know what I mean...in a relationship that isn’t working. Maybe you are waiting around for that person to decide if they want to be in a relationship with you, or maybe you are waiting for something to change. Or, perhaps, you are waiting for the other person to change, or some divine intervention to show you what to do, to make the decision for you.

When a relationship is on its way out; when it’s reached its expiration date; when it’s time to pack it in, we can feel it. We know it.

But, we usually aren't honest with ourselves enough to take the next step.

Why? Well, what if we are wrong? What if we can’t find someone else? What if things change tomorrow? What if the other person comes to the realization that they can’t live without us? And what about all that work, work, work of rebuilding our lives without that person? It's exhausting!

Rather than being true to ourselves and what our emotions are telling us, we stick around because it validates our level of lovability and desirability. Maybe we think we’ve found 'The One' because we feel a deep connection with them, even though we aren't getting the type of relationship that we want from them.

The relationship is unsatisfying, and you know you've been trying really hard to make it work. Unfortunately, it becomes more of a struggle while performing an in-depth analysis with your friends (over a bottle of wine) about what the other person has done or said. 

Now what? It hurts to leave and it hurts to stay.

In the blatantly honest words of a friend of mine: “If he isn’t all over your beautiful ass and begging for more of you, he isn’t worthy.”

The person in your life, or the person you want in your life, should want to be with you. It's that simple.

They should want to check on you to see how you are doing. There should be effort involved. If you are the one doing all the connecting, and you are unsatisfied with the progress of things (and you really want them to be all over your beautiful ass and they aren't), then it’s time to move on.

There is someone else out there that will be everything you are looking for and more. 

Namaste, beautiful souls!

Healing Your Heart

The ending of a relationship is, quite possibly, one of the crappiest things to experience. All of that time and emotion and effort put into the relationship to make it tick.... done... like yesterday's dinner. We give all of our heart and soul, and strip ourselves bare, fully opening up to the other person, hoping and trusting that they will do the same.

We create this connection with this special person with high hopes that it will last a lifetime....but it doesn't.
No wonder we have a tough time moving on!

So, what can the broken-hearted do to heal their beautiful heart?

• First off, know that the pain is not going to go away instantaneously. It's going to take time to heal. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself the love you need. We don't always give ourselves the love and affection that we need to mend our hearts. Be mindful that this is an important step in healing.  
• Understand that, because the relationship ended, it does not mean you are a failure. We are all constantly growing and evolving, and sometimes we grow apart from each other. It's part of life.
•  Take these relationship experiences to help you understand what you truly want in the next relationship. The more you know what you don't want, the more you know what you do want. 
• It's okay to mourn the end of the relationship. Sometimes we feel that it’s ‘wrong’ to cry over someone, especially if they have been unkind to us. Understand that you are making a major change in your life. Take the time to honour yourself, and give yourself credit for making a decision to make a change for the better.
• Talk to people who will support you and give you the space you need. Do not be around others who will try to undermine your decision. You are making this decision for a reason, and only you can make that decision. 
• Find the right transition period to move from healing to moving forward. Sometimes, we get so stuck in the sadness that we hang out there for longer than we should. Although, you are the only one who knows what you need, please be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything possible to heal, or are you lingering in the past? There is a large, limitless world waiting for you to discover.
• Finally, meditate.  Meditation can bring clarity, peace, and healing into every area of your life. Check out this Ted Talk on meditation. 

Namaste.