De-Cluttering Your Life

A few weeks ago, I visited a very intuitive friend that was able to help me with some issues that had been bugging me for a while now. During this time, she received messages from her guides that I was to take a break from writing for 8 weeks. What?! Eight weeks of no writing?

"I have clients," I protested. I can't NOT write. 

However, she assured me that the writing I was doing for my clients was different from my own writing projects, and this was what I needed a break from.

The reasoning was due to the coming changes for me. My energy is changing, which will show in the way I write, create, and how I express ideas. There will be a deepening of more love and respect for myself and for others, which will also be obvious in my creative projects.

If I continue to write without the break, it will be with the same old energy, and it will feel stuck. 

That being said, I have been stuck on a writing project for years. Even though I can see the end result, the flow isn't there. I can see where I want it to go, but the progress doesn't come. 

Even with this blog, I know what I want to say, but the articulation leaves me stranded. 

That being said, I do have a healthy amount of skepticism, but I also have an open mind to consider the things she suggested. 

The point I want to make, dear readers, is: Is there something that you need to de-clutter in your life? In your mind? In your heart? Is there something that you need to take a step back from to get some clarity? Unsettled relationships can produce a lot of cluttered thinking, and we continue to hammer the square peg into the round hole, trying to make it work; trying to make it fit. Take a step back. Meditate. Be more present. Busy yourself by getting rid of material items that no longer serve you. Spring clean your house, your mind, your heart, and your life. 

Rumi said:                              

  “Although the road is never ending

                                              take a step and keep walking,

     do not look fearfully into the distance.

      On this path let the heart be your guide

         for the body is hesitant and full of fear.”

Don't view this as the end, because there is no end. View this as a shedding of the old, revealing a new story.  

Namaste.

Healing Your Heart

The ending of a relationship is, quite possibly, one of the crappiest things to experience. All of that time and emotion and effort put into the relationship to make it tick.... done... like yesterday's dinner. We give all of our heart and soul, and strip ourselves bare, fully opening up to the other person, hoping and trusting that they will do the same.

We create this connection with this special person with high hopes that it will last a lifetime....but it doesn't.
No wonder we have a tough time moving on!

So, what can the broken-hearted do to heal their beautiful heart?

• First off, know that the pain is not going to go away instantaneously. It's going to take time to heal. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself the love you need. We don't always give ourselves the love and affection that we need to mend our hearts. Be mindful that this is an important step in healing.  
• Understand that, because the relationship ended, it does not mean you are a failure. We are all constantly growing and evolving, and sometimes we grow apart from each other. It's part of life.
•  Take these relationship experiences to help you understand what you truly want in the next relationship. The more you know what you don't want, the more you know what you do want. 
• It's okay to mourn the end of the relationship. Sometimes we feel that it’s ‘wrong’ to cry over someone, especially if they have been unkind to us. Understand that you are making a major change in your life. Take the time to honour yourself, and give yourself credit for making a decision to make a change for the better.
• Talk to people who will support you and give you the space you need. Do not be around others who will try to undermine your decision. You are making this decision for a reason, and only you can make that decision. 
• Find the right transition period to move from healing to moving forward. Sometimes, we get so stuck in the sadness that we hang out there for longer than we should. Although, you are the only one who knows what you need, please be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything possible to heal, or are you lingering in the past? There is a large, limitless world waiting for you to discover.
• Finally, meditate.  Meditation can bring clarity, peace, and healing into every area of your life. Check out this Ted Talk on meditation. 

Namaste.