Preparing for Love

Getting yourself ready for love is like preparing yourself for any major life event. Think about it: love is a big deal, and if you aren't prepared for it properly, it could end badly. This isn't to say that, once you prepare for love, the relationship will be everlasting. Nothing is guaranteed, things happen, and people grow apart. However, you want to make sure you prepare for love so you are attracting what you want.

There are many ways that we can prepare for love. For instance, buy something nice to wear on a first date, or declutter the bedroom to make it more conducive to romance and welcoming a lover.

While doing the outside preparation is a requirement, the inside preparation is more important. To prepare for love, we have to go deep within ourselves.

Feeling extremely insecure about yourself will not attract the appropriate partner into your life. You may say you want a person with certain types of qualities and characteristics, but, for some reason, you always seem to attract the opposite (see previous blog post on why you attract the same types of relationships).

This is where you take a good look at yourself. What is it that you need to improve about you? One thing that most of us do not do is fully love and respect ourselves. Loving and respecting yourself should be number one on your list. How do you love and respect yourself? Are you honouring who you are? Are you honouring your own feelings? Are you staying true to who you are?

Have you let go of the past or are you holding on? Anger and resentment are two things that we easily can bring into our new relationship. If we've been hurt in the past, and haven't effectively dealt with the pain, we can bring that garbage into our new shiny relationship. Is that really fair to the other person?  Is it fair to you?

You would expect the person you have a relationship with to honour and treasure your beautiful heart. But, that can't really happen if you don't honour and treasure it yourself. If you expect someone to do it for you, you may be disappointed if they don't follow through. Start by taking care of your own heart. When you do, someone will come into your life who will help you treasure it.

Dear lovely souls, Valentine's Day is around the corner. Make a promise to yourself to give yourself the loving care that you need. Do the work necessary for you to truly love you. You will not be disappointed. 

De-Cluttering Your Life

A few weeks ago, I visited a very intuitive friend that was able to help me with some issues that had been bugging me for a while now. During this time, she received messages from her guides that I was to take a break from writing for 8 weeks. What?! Eight weeks of no writing?

"I have clients," I protested. I can't NOT write. 

However, she assured me that the writing I was doing for my clients was different from my own writing projects, and this was what I needed a break from.

The reasoning was due to the coming changes for me. My energy is changing, which will show in the way I write, create, and how I express ideas. There will be a deepening of more love and respect for myself and for others, which will also be obvious in my creative projects.

If I continue to write without the break, it will be with the same old energy, and it will feel stuck. 

That being said, I have been stuck on a writing project for years. Even though I can see the end result, the flow isn't there. I can see where I want it to go, but the progress doesn't come. 

Even with this blog, I know what I want to say, but the articulation leaves me stranded. 

That being said, I do have a healthy amount of skepticism, but I also have an open mind to consider the things she suggested. 

The point I want to make, dear readers, is: Is there something that you need to de-clutter in your life? In your mind? In your heart? Is there something that you need to take a step back from to get some clarity? Unsettled relationships can produce a lot of cluttered thinking, and we continue to hammer the square peg into the round hole, trying to make it work; trying to make it fit. Take a step back. Meditate. Be more present. Busy yourself by getting rid of material items that no longer serve you. Spring clean your house, your mind, your heart, and your life. 

Rumi said:                              

  “Although the road is never ending

                                              take a step and keep walking,

     do not look fearfully into the distance.

      On this path let the heart be your guide

         for the body is hesitant and full of fear.”

Don't view this as the end, because there is no end. View this as a shedding of the old, revealing a new story.  

Namaste.