You Complete Me

"You complete me." -Jerry Maguire

There is a belief that we need a person, thing, (fill in the blank), to complete our lives and to make us feel whole.

The fact is, we need to feel whole first; to complete ourselves first. Everything that we want is within each of us already: Love. Abundance. Joy. Happiness. Passion.

Those things we are searching for in another person are already within us. We need to realize that we are already whole and we already have whatever we need and want. We are searching for the feeling that the other person gives us, not fully aware that we have had it in us from the beginning.

What do we do then?

We love ourselves a little more. We treat ourselves with more respect and kindness. With gentleness and appreciation. We realize that what we want and need is within us already. We realize that what we want and need is important as well. We realize that we complete ourselves.

“We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoy's fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time. Your treasure--your perfection--is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the buy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart.” -Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love